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Recently, I'm been placed on a situation which I am quite unhappy with the arrangement made. Here it goes...

A close fren of mine, H will going on an overseas trip for 4months soon. About 1+ month ago, I have arranged with H that we will meet up on a day b4 he flies off.

H was worried that his church frens might ask him out for dinner before his cell grp on the very same day. After giving much consideration for his family and church frens, we have agreed that I will take his morning and afternoon slot for that day.

We decided to invited J & Z into the meet up too. The initial plan was to go for ktv but 4 of us went for 1 recently. Just a few days ago, we discussed and agreed to go for cycling instead.

Then ytd, H just pop a msg thru msn that he couldn't make it for our pre-arranged cycling trip. At the same time, I was reading his blog entry and saw that he had later agreed with his church frens for lunch, which clashes with our meet up. The time stamp on his entry was 5+pm and he msg me at ard 8+, which shows his lack of urgency...

Discomfort starts to shake my senses... after all, our appointment was made first way back a month plus away and gave consideration for his church frens... I was also unhappy that H failed to check whether Z, J and I before H gave his word to his church frens... I couldn't help to think that his church frens comes with a higher priority than 3 of us...

I questioned H, y he didn't push the lunch appointment away...

H replied, his church frens will be busy for church activities dat evening... and he's very sry...

Then H added, if he could meet up much later in the afternoon after his lunch appointment...

On my side, I had also made an appointment with 2 frens of mine on that evening and I had to push it away...

Meanwhile, I proposed to H that we got to check with J & Z for H's new proposal... while I reluctantly try to cancel off my evening plans...

After J & Z were added into the msn chat, H described his situation and he's very sry abt it.

Fortunately, J & Z accepted it willingly.

As for my side, 1 of my frens wasnt too happy with my withdrawal and I tried to describe my position better to him... afterall, H will be leaving SG for 4 months, so H will be on a higher priority...

It isn't the first time that H has put me in such situation where I felt that I'm been given a lower priority... A movie outing was a good example... He was given a pair of free tickets and he agreed to bring me along... just a day after our agreement, he changed his mind... & it happened again...

After pushing my evening appointment, I went back to tell H off. Placing J and Z in an awkward situation... i see a need to, becoz i felt dat it may happen again if all of us gladly accepted his proposal... H's reply is still he's very sry abt it...

Before I wanted to go any further, J msg me on another window and opened my views to look at the situation from another angle... so I took a turn and accepted H's proposal... btw, I had already rationalized my emotions, if not, I wouldn't have agreed.

As I move on to the next step to re-confirmed the details for the newly confirmed timing suggest by H. H broke in and said he's leaving the conversation and he left... Just when I wanted to ask if he will still be going for his cell grp later in the evening... I feel that it is a rude act to do...

I start to wonder have I done the correct thing to push away my own pre-arranged evening appointment with my 2 other frens... will both of them also feel the same way as I do... they could have also felt that I placed H as a higher priority than them... sigh...

Other than very sry... H had nothing much to say... Disappointment is all I felt...

Before I end here... here's a nice song....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AAWqnA8PdcY
coz other than Sorry,sorry, I don't understand the rest... Hope that u guys be able to catch the humour... ha~~

+ BL updated @ 8:29 AM

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